Hello Powerful You,

This post is about relationships.
Every relationship has its ups and downs
it is normal but you have to realize when that person actually cares
and when that person is just their to take advantage of you
They have to support you and believe in everything you do
even if it is the littliest thing they have to support you
That person should be independent but still need you
Don’t get in a relationship if you know you are going to break up
get in a relationship because you have intentions of becoming something together
Why date someone if you know some day you will break up?
I don’t see the point in wasting your time on someone who is put there to be permenant
Of course you may get in a relationship and realize it is not for you
or it is not meant to be at that point you have to make the final decision
You need to establish what you want before you start looking for other people
who have the same values.
Also if your in a relationship don’t constantly apologize for things
because at the time it was exactly what they wanted
so let them say what they want and DO NOT let them regret it.
Just let them add up and one day you will realize when there is too many and what is right
Just know that you need someone to need you.
Remember…

YOU ARE WORTH IT.

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Hello Powerful You,

This post is about never giving up and
 always believing in yourself.

Never give up on everything you believe
the second you give up on something
is the second you sto believing in youself.
Whether people are supporting you or not
you have something that you want
you have to go out and get it
you can’t rely on other people to do things for you
if you want something to happen you have to work for it
Of course you are going to fail time after time
and get hurt sometimes
YOU HAVE TO GET UP
YOU HAVE TO KEEP TRYING
YOU COULD BE SOOO CLOSE AND NOT EVEN KNOW
YOU HAVE TO NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF
ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
If you have a dream you need to protect it
People alway tell you that you cannot do something
because they cannot do it
YOU WANT SOMETHING GO OUT AND GET IT

YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Hello Powerful You,

I think it is important for you to know that if you keep making mistakes
or you keep messing something up
don’t get frustrated or mad at yourself
Making mistakes is just proof that you are trying.
Trying is a good thing never let someone tell you that
trying isn’t good enough

YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Hello Powerful You,

If you don’t like the way something looks, then you need to stop wishing it will change. You need to go out and start doing it. So STOP saying tomorrow and go out anf get it RIGHT NOW
always remember,

YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Hello Powerful You,

I don’t know if you guys like what i have been posting? Please comment what you want to see more of or if you like the things i am posting. Here is another speech, this is a poem. I put this piece together from multiple poets i hope you like it.


When I was just a little girl I asked my mother will I be pretty. What comes after that? Oh yeah will I be rich mommy? Which is almost the same as pretty depending on where you shop.

Steve Schirripa once stated, “With girls, there’s an insecurity that starts early on. It hangs around them, like some annoying kid from down the block who won’t take the hint and go home when dinnertime comes. And moms are usually not great at giving their daughters confidence.” Insecurities are uncertainty or anxiety about oneself, lacking confidence. 62% of girls are insecure about themselves and how they picture themselves found out by a reliable source clean cut media.  Pretty a program by various authors.

when I first learned no one could ever love me more than me a world of happiness previously unseen was discovered because somewhere along the line of aging and scrutiny and time I was taught to despise myself but I made sure I kept myself beautiful so someone would love me someday so I could belong to someone someday because that’s the most important thing a little girl could want, right?

When you were little I’m sure you use to dream that you could take your tummy to the butcher shop and he would carve off all your baby fat thin with a deli slicer. But what will you tell your 5 year old daughter when she can’t find her face in yours because of all that plastic surgery trying to make you pretty. Or what will you say when your daughter says mommy when I grow up I want to be a centerfold. Or how about when you’ll step towards your perfect groom in your perfect new body upholstered in your perfect new dress, and he will lift up your veil and see the wrong women.  

When I was seven, I wanted nothing more than to be beautiful. Not beautiful and smart. Or beautiful and powerful. Just beautiful. I just wanted to be blonde and wear miniskirts and have a name like Sarah or Jennifer.

Then I turned thirteen and it was the  first time I was embarrassed about my body and I remember stuffing my bra in the morning  with tears stinging my eyes  hoping, praying to something that I could look beautiful enough today braces and all for the ruthless boys who mercilessly told me I was worthless because my boobs weren’t big enough and I would go home and put on a sweatshirt with my eyes closed deny myself to be shown myself because I didn’t dare want to insinuate beauty  in regards to something so insulting as my body

By 16 I was prickled with ointments, medications, and peroxides. Teeth corralled into steel prongs. Laying in the hospital bed, face packed with gauze, cushioning the brand new nose the surgeon had carved. Belly gorged on two pints of my own blood I had swallowed under anesthesia and every convulsive twist of my gut like my body screaming at me from the inside out “what did you let them do to you?” All while this never ending chorus droning on and on, like the IV needle dripping liquid beauty into my blood. I asked my mother will I be pretty? Like my mother, unwrapping the gift wrap to reveal the bouquet of daughter her $10,000 bought her? Pretty?  And now, I have not seen my own face in 10 years. I have not seen my own face in 10 years but this isn’t about me.

I mean we all end up with our heads between our knees because the only place we feel safe is curled up inside skin we’ve been taught to hate by a society that shuns our awful confidence and feeds us our own flaws and sometimes when I need to meet the me that loves me, I can’t find her a reminder that the mirror is meant to be a curse so I confine her in my mind  but when he or she shouts let me out we’re allowed to listen but it’s met by a chorus of conceited egotistical  narcissist  but since when was self-solicitude a sin since when was loving who we are made an offense by morons that don’t matter change this physicality and that one, don’t you shatter the illusion you could ever  be something beyond your paper fine flesh and flashy teeth and fingernails echoic accusations of not good enough, never good enough have you ever felt so numb that it hurts entertain me whore you can’t surrender to them  you gotta remember you’re the only thing you’ll ever truly have and no I don’t mean your body because someday it’ll go bad no matter what you do I mean you I mean the way your bright eyes go wild when you smile and how your laughter’s so melodic it’s like a song I mean the way your creativity’s compass that leads you to what you love you don’t need any miracle cream to keep your passions smooth hair free or diet pills to slim your kindness down and when you start to drown in these petty expectations you better examine the miracle of your existence you’re worth so much more than your waistline you’re worth the beautiful thoughts you think and the daring dreams you dream, undone and drunk off alcohol of being but sometimes we forget that because we live in a word where the media pulls us from the womb nurses us and teaches us our first words skinny pretty skinny pretty girls soft quiet pretty boys manly muscles pretty don’t you cry because a girl’s job is to look soft for you and I don’t care whether it’s your gender your looks your weight your skin or where your love lies  none of that matters because standards don’t define you don’t live to meet credentials established by a madman you’re a treasure whether you wanna believe it or not and maybe that’s what everyone should start looking for

So Finally what will you say when you daughter approaches already stung, stained with insecurities, begging mom will I be pretty? Will you wipe that question from her mouth like cheap lipstick and answer no! The word pretty is unworthy of everything you will be, and no child of mine will be contained in 6 letters. You will be pretty intelligent, pretty creative, pretty amazing, but you will never be merely pretty.
 You Are Worth It.

Hello Powerful You,

I know i haven’t posted in a couple days I have been busy, but i wanted you guys to read something. This is a speech i wrote last year. I just want all of you to realize how important having a high self-esteem is. Also how important it is to tell someone they are beautiful EVERYDAY.



Body image:

“To all the girls that think you’re ugly because you’re not a size 0, you’re the beautiful one.  Its society who’s ugly”  Today I’m going to be telling you about body image, bulimic, and anorexic and how it effects the way people look at their lives, and why I think it should change!  According to the culture of beauty  9 million people have committed suicide because of people bullying them for the way they look!  You may be thinking that not that many people compared to all the people in this world, or if you’re thinking wow that’s a lot of people! Whichever one you’re thinking it doesn’t matter! I think that whether it’s a lot of people or not this could save millions of people from killing themselves all by people not worrying about the way other look!  “If you’re not perfect you shouldn’t be judging other people, so look in the mirror and make sure you’re perfect before you go and judge other people.”

            First I’m going to be telling you about what bulimic and anorexic disorders are.  According to eating disorders Bulimic is when someone doesn’t like the way they look, as in they think there too big or they eat too much, and they go and make themselves throw up.  When Anorexic disorder is where people also believe they are too big or fat and they don’t eat or they barely eat anything at all.  If you ask me I believe this is wrong, people shouldn’t have to turn to making themselves throw up or making themselves stop eating just to look the way they want to!  But I mean advertisements aren’t helping with this! I’m just going to ask a quick question have any of you ever seen a bigger or fat Barbie, because I know I haven’t!  When parents go and buy their kids a Barbie they don’t realize that a Barbie is skinnier then any actually person could ever be. It influences girls to make them want to look like a Barbie to make them think that they need to be skinny because all they see around then are dolls that are under the average weight that a human could never be! 

            According to Huffington education A 13 year old girl named Erin Gallagher and her older sister who is 15 years old and goes by Shannon Gallagher both committed suicide about a year apart from each other!  The reason they took their own lives was both for the same reason they both were being cyber bullied because of the way they looked! Erin even told the people that were tormenting her or the people that were bullying her just 24 hours before that she was thinking of committing suicide and none of them cared, they didn’t believe her!  The 24 hours pasted and Erin thought to herself what my point in living? The people that have been tormenting me don’t care about me or dont care if I live another day in this world. That Saturday night she was found dead by one of her relatives.  The relative had walked into her room and saw that she hung herself and the relative had no idea why. Later finding out that people had been bullying her because the way she looked!  They found the people or her tormentors and they didn’t believe she actually did, they didn’t realize how much words could hurt a person!  They didn’t realize that mean words stick forever!  According to the New York Times  A year later her older sister Shannon Gallagher also committed suicide because of being bullied by the way she looked yes part of it was because she missed her sister but that made the bullying she was getting even worse that she couldn’t take it anymore and committed suicide that Wednesday night! I hope the teens that were bullying Erin realize that they made 2 beautiful young ladies kill themselves all because they were worried about what they look like!  When they shouldn’t care, it shouldn’t matter your height or your weight doesnt mean anything everyone is beautiful in their own way! When I personal first heard this story I got a little teary because can you imagine what this feels like to the person or even the loved ones.  Can you imagine 9 million other people have a similar tragic story like this one?

            You may now be thinking so what is your point or what can I do too change it!  I’m not asking anyone to stop what they’re doing and go ask everyone if there happy with the way they look because 85% of women and 72% of men are unhappy with the way they look! What I am asking is for every person in this room to stop worrying about what other people look like does it matter to you!  The only person you should be worried about is you!  Other people’s looks should be the least of your worry!  I know my topic wasn’t on bullying and I kind of talked about it a lot but bullying and cyber bullying both lead to my topic because most bullying is said or done because of the way a person looks! I feel this is wrong! I believe that bullying should stop what you look is your choice!

            In conclusion, I hope that all of you are on the same page as me and you believe that the way people look shouldn’t matter to you or anyone else! That’s there opinion and they look as they want!  Just remember that when people say stick and stones can break your bones but words can’t hurt me! That’s not true words can hurt they have hurt me and I’m sure have hurt all of you before and I’m sure that the things people have said will never be forgotten! 
You Are Worth It.